The single most important factor in determining a person’s creative success is confidence. I chose “Building Confidence, Freeing Creativity” as the tagline for my coaching business because experience has taught me we must act with conviction to bring dreams into reality. Confidence and dream-building require the right seeds and tending. You can’t scatter grass seeds and expect to yield tomatoes. Similarly, growing confidence requires right action. Build your confidence by leveraging one of your greatest powers: the ability to make clear decisions.
Increase your level of success in consciously creating a life you would love – and start right now! Simply decide to release old patterns that don’t serve you anymore. And follow through.
Here are three guideposts to keep in mind as you take action today:
1. Know your enemy: Indecision
One of my favourite writers on the subject of empowered decision-making is Raymond Charles Barker. In The Power of Decision, Barker makes a strong connection between worry and indecision. He asserts, “Every failure-motivated mind has been an indecisive mind.” Bob Proctor, another luminary on this vital topic, points out that indecision sets up internal conflicts and leads to ambivalence: “A very basic law of the Universe is ‘create or disintegrate.’ Indecision causes disintegration.”
In his landmark study of success, Think and Grow Rich, pioneering self-help writer Napoleon Hill refers to procrastination as “the common enemy.” If you procrastinate on a decision, know that you are really making a decision to fail.
Decision-making is not something you can avoid. Moreover, it is something to be embraced.
So why do people fail at making strong, clear decisions?
We know that low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence are directly linked with indecision. Yet so many of us procrastinate. That was often my pattern before I chose to study with great coaches, advance my training in personal development, and create more consistently by design. I was ready to change and grow.
With that said, is it still possible for me to backslide in decision-making? You bet. For any of us, even those with exceptional success stories, the practice of making firm, clear decisions requires awareness and ongoing work. It requires deciding to be an effective adult, and choosing to keep our own counsel, rather than relying on approval from others.
Barker invites each one of us to be a “today person” – one not bound by the past and old patterns of seeking external validation. As children, he says, many of us were afraid of making mistakes due to our emotional ties to our parents and our perceived need to please them: “The adult who is indecisive is a person who is still subconsciously afraid that what he or she may do will not please some past symbol in his mind. Too often, the past still rules the present. Usually it is so camouflaged in the subconscious that the individual is completely unaware of it.” An adult who hasn’t shaken the old pattern of seeking external validation continues in the drain of uncertainty. “His day lacks lustre, his hours have no fascination in them, and he wearies in his supposed well-doing.”
This person needs to make a decision of his own.
2. Know the benefits of strong decision-making
Here are a few:
- Greater confidence
- The elimination of inner conflict and confusion, and thus, greater clarity and peace
- Greater mental health as we release guilt around striving to please others
- A stronger self-image and higher self-esteem
- Increased prosperity
- A higher rate of success
- The ability to bring forth something new and valuable – in short, greater conscious creativity
Hill reminds us, “Those who reach decisions promptly, and definitely, know what they want, and generally get it… The world has a habit of making room for people whose words and actions show they know where they are going.
3. Adopt the behaviours of strong decision-makers
My mentor in transformation, Mary Morrissey, often teaches that the word decide means to “cut away from.” Once you’ve defined a vision of the life you would love, even one area, learn to cut away all that isn’t coherent with your vision.
Things to practise:
- Notice if and when you are ambivalent, and decide to stop it
- “Decide right where you are with whatever you’ve got” (Proctor)
- Know what you want and assume you can do it, as “This assumption is decision” (Barker)
- Know the value of decisions depends upon courage; the greatest decisions have often involved great risks
- Learn to “Expect, Plan, and Demand” (Hill)
What creative dream or endeavour can you decide for, right now? Go for it! Make up your mind to be fulfilled, successful, and confident in your decision!
And remember: The most successful people get coaching support in making their visions into realities. What support are you willing to decide for right now? For a consultation, contact me here.